How could you ever be sure that they are not gonna turn on your kid and harm them? If we do find ourselves getting caught up on the past so to say we probably won’t advance forward. To greyman, it was a very stressful time 4 us all. Get right in faith with the only one who has battled satan himself. Your kids deserve more and so do you! I wasn’t out stalking kids at play grounds I didn’t kidnap any kid torture them and than kill them I didn’t do that. Hi John Further, when aversion therapy does work, it is unlikely to do more than eliminate the attraction to children. Unless they are stopped by someone else, before they get there. It likely will not help people develop an attraction to age-appropriate adults if they do not already experience such an attraction. I would take my life before I ruined another. And that is why anger wont fix any kind of evil. Still do! I don't think a child molester can ever be cured. From this list you can click to view our members’ full profiles and contact the therapists themselves for more information. Only when that defense mechanism is shattered and failing to work are they likely to begin to face the issue and be open to therapy/rehabilitation. I know this really is not the place to talk about ocd as such but I felt that it kind of relates in terms of feeling certain urges to do things. You can replace fear with confidence. (USA) There's NO rehabilitating a child molester: My father molested my sister and me for over ten years. It makes it feel like urges and the more you fight it the more the mind will tell you to act on those urges. The child understandably internalizes that it must be their fault or they would be loved and treasured. Many have been molested when they were children once that damage has been done it's worse then a drug addict they can't stop. But that was too easy. otherwise we are just as bad being murderers, it says THOU shall not kill, for a reason, i’m not bible thumping, but seriously, we need to help these people not kill them or lock them up forever, every case is different as people grow up differently, its not a one size fits all problem/fix, we need to study this more and find out WHAT is causing people to be like this, it’s in most cases i see NOT choice that they intentionally want to harm people, some people have very little impulse control, they need help, not torture. My ex molested my daughter who was 6then. I would say start with something small maybe try to get out the house more often if you can. We do have a weekly column in which therapists answer readers’ questions, called Dear When you cut off what doesn’t fit, you create the kind of energy that creates monsters that sprout up to infest and attack the weakest of society. Greyman, I do not think of it as a mental illness, but I don’t know what to say caused it. I still have trouble telling him to stay away from us… I wrote two different letters to send him and I still have not… it’s harder than you think…but I think I finally made up my mind of what to write…, All criminality originates from sex.To be precise,childhood sex taboos,inhibitions,deprivations,rejections,especially of this kind we’re discussing here.Every human beimg is capable of doing one abominable act or the other,but for the fear of God,or man or both.We are all living under intense self control and should look with pity towards convicts as those who failed to control themselves.I am better than you attitudes,expressions and purnishments towards criminals,only breed new ones.Yes I agree that criminals must pay.But it all depends on what man calls a crime.A victim feels injured later,because society says it’s wrong.So was sodomy,now made legal.My advice is that all sexual acts should be monitored,guided and tutored.Just like sex education in schools have succeeded immensely to curb teen pregnancies.I mean,since we cannot stop them and won’t be there when it always happens,show them how to do it safe.I tell you,because this is the begining of all crimes and is treated well,we might just have discovered a great way of curbing crimes,make society safer and living on this planet most blissful. A week ago i found what appeared to be a journal entry of boyfriend he admitted cheatin on me w/women, men and playing w/my daughter, niece, neighbors daughter in private area i am now being charged w/assault my ex prior to did but i dumped the guy we were abt to get married in june i cant believe it still even though facts dont lie i didnt protect my kids & how come i didnt see it. I really believe most who have maybe committed certain acts do feel bad for what they have done. BY LAW, they have to report it or they can loose their licence. Child Abuse - Molesters Cannot Be Rehabilitated. Is it stupid? I was very much in denial. Whether they may hope or even plan to re-offend, some convicted child molesters may never gain a ripe opportunity. Please know that help is available, and we wish you the best of luck in your search. So the life of a registered sexoffender is no life. It’s like… don’t I matter? It’s just hard. I will pray 4 ur family and all others who face this kind of sickness. Most people who do such evil things to a child was once done to them ata very young age. Retrieved from, Kaplan, M. (2014, October 5). He molested our daughters, and I found out two years ago from his sister that he had molested her when he was a teenager babysitting her. Individuals who are older than 16 and experience ongoing sexual desire for children. YES, 16 BILLION dollars, That was almost 20 years ago. There are over 800,000 SO’s in the US right now. And don’t try to justify it by saying all people fight desires. Crimes that in most cases, could/should have been avoided. I personally know someone who had been a child molester for 10 years. In fact, most child molestors are not pedophiles. To Liz, A forensic interview will most likely happen. Judicial system doesn’t care about it’s citizens and eggs them on to commit crimes. Called me often and sent me care packages. I believe sexoffender can be rehabilitated. But she told me that her step dad touch her private,my sister ask hem to leave we didn’t make a report or anything,a week past and I thought my sister was going to do something and she didn’t that happend a sunday and by the next Saturday my sister was sleeping with hem again but in he’s house,well time past and then we find out she got pregnant from the same guy,my niece used to cry with me,or text me saying do something I don’t know what my mom is thinking and stuff like that so I felt so bad for my niece but still don’t do anything I was afraid to get my sister in trouble with CPS..well I went to a trip I took her kids with me including my niece of course,when we came back she already had the newborn baby and this guy living back at the house,my niece went to school and said everything to her counselor,when they told her that they can take the kids away from her mom she felt bad and said I forse her to do it when is not true,well she went back home,saw her mom crying and felt guilty now my sister ask her to go back to her counselor and say she lied about the child molester,my consern is I know now this guy smokes meth what should I do? The worst part is many repeat offenders because probation officers or parole officers aren't paying attention to what they are doing. Plus, many pedophiles never commit sex offenses. He is begging me to forgive him and that he has been working so hard to be a better person. He can protect ur heart. But I believe he is in Heaven. Using mind-body therapies, hypnotherapy, energy healing, energy psychology, and transpersonal spiritual approaches is a way to get better results with treating offenders or those who have the attraction even though they haven’t acted on it so far. It’s also an outlier among studies assessing changes in pedophilic interests over time, most of which have pointed to high levels of stability. I feel sometimes that the U.S. that’s more exceptable. The whole system is very sad. I do understand ur distress! Never saw it coming. he was sentenced to 5yrs. Some states, such as California, mandate castration for offenders with multiple convictions as a condition of release. Rehabilitation is possible, the person just needs to want to be rehabilitated. Sex offenders may use aversion therapy to attempt to eliminate their attractions to children. He hid it very well. One slip and I could descend again. Can Child Molesters Ever Be Rehabilitated? If someone with actual mental health problems acted on their thoughts I don’t think castration would help even though I do think it is a good idea but not if the actual person suffered from mental health problems because that tends to me that it was not their sexaul desire but a rather screwed up mind. You mentioned something at the top of your comment along the lines of it still haunts me, you sound to me like a good person who has done bad in the past but that very statement tells me you are a good person who I would imagine would jump at any opportunities to help others. Copyright © 2007 - 2021 GoodTherapy, LLC. Is there something wrong with me? Can Chemical Castration Help Pedophiles Tame the Beast Within? Many people don’t realize this, but some adults who aren’t primarily attracted to children still commit sex crimes against them. Yes it is an awful awful thing and if I was my cousin I would hate my father for what he did. Others suggest that recidivism rates are low and that sex offenders are less likely to reoffend than those who commit other types of crimes. I want awareness. It’s about your victim and their family and the lives you ruined. We met when we were 15…both worked at a grocery store.. he was shy. We may someday find out that it is the latter, maybe even that it can be cured. He couldn’t handle that and took his life. I am angry at him and can’t look at him the same way. I’m not perfect please destroy judge me. 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